I have worked with Robby for several years. His depth of knowledge, theological background, and personal background, all combined, make him an incredible counselor. He can help you understand the issues and guide you to effectively deal with your concerns. I highly recommend him. His guidance will help you heal your mind, heart and soul.
I have had the gift of knowing Robby Carroll for over the past 30-years. Robby’s warm, insightful presence is a powerful tool in navigating life’s challenges. Individual counseling, family counseling, couples counseling or recovery work, Robby’s wisdom and clinical acumen allows him to be a sage guide in every setting. While it is true, as a clinician myself, I have referred countless folks to Robby, what is more important to me is he has been my and my family’s “go to.” Throughout our trials and travails, our individual, family and addiction challenges, Robby has been our constant companion and cicerone. If you find yourself thinking about seeking out a therapist, I know a profoundly gifted man. His name is Robby Carroll.
I have worked with Robby Carroll for several years while he has supervised our Divorce Recovery Group as a Stephen Minister lead facilitator and counselor. His understanding of fiamily dynamics, whether in divorce, at odds, during family illness, in drug and/or alcohol rehab or addiction is amazing! Not only does he have a full understanding of what one is going through, but he loves to educate so that we can better understand ourselves. Most counselors just listen, nod and you have to find the answers slowly. Not Robby! The interaction with this gentle man (not a misspelling) is soul soothing and wonderful for rehabilitation to normal circumstances in a timely manner. When I needed counseling, I was so grateful to be able to go to Robby and know that in my unusual circumstances, he would be open, receptive and looking to help me regain balance in my life.
Robby has chosen to use the deep suffering he has experienced in a lifetime as a gift to share and transform other broken souls and bring light back in their lives. One of the greatest gifts he shares is his innate ability to listen. Robby’s wisdom on life makes you at peace that all will be alright in this tragic and beautiful world we live in. Being in a room with him makes you want to soak up all he knows and has experienced in life. He shares with you the tools, the will, and strength to keep fighting through your own battle. He can make you go from crying tears to laughing in a matter of moments by the grace of his incredible humor. He is raw, real and makes you realize you are not alone in this work. He has pulled me through some of my darkest of days. I am forever grateful for Robby Carroll.
The journey from the addiction of obsession for someone else’s life to the point of taking care of one’s own life is recovery. The secret to recovery is found in the 12 Steps of AlAnon. I learned from chats with Robby Carroll and from sharing at AlAnon meetings that I could find serenity and peace through my Higher Power. Gods will is always available if we listen and follow His guidance. Robby has always listened as I reached out for help and offered his strength, hope and experience to lighten my load. His example is what our programs are all about One Day at a Time.
Robby Carroll has influenced my life in such profound ways over the years. He has assisted me in the many changes, good and bad, in my life. Robby raises questions, doesn’t give advice, and allows my inner work tell me how to respond to situations. He has always encouraged my deep soul of understanding within myself-the answers are always in me and knowing that has contributed to an amazing understanding of my personal journey. He is truly a remarkable human being with a solid commitment to his counseling. I thank God for his expertise of soul searching!
Robby Carroll deeply cares about me and reminds me often that I am a child of God. He has listened and not judged, and he has even cried with me on several occasions. We have talked about deeply personal issues and never once have I felt ashamed to tell him. Robby is not afraid of what I might say. Every thought I have had has been valued and not judged. He diagnosed me with PTSD and helped me to see the emotional abuse I had endured by a close family member. He has helped me navigate anger, fear, heartbreak, and physical ailments that are caused by emotional stress. Robby cares enough to get in the trenches with me and help me figure out how to find my inner truth because as he says “the truth shall set you free.” He celebrates my victories with me and laughs with me. Because of Robby I have seen improvement in my physical well-being, and I even see myself differently. Robby has experienced a lot of heartbreak in his life and he has used that to help teach me how to understand my own situation. He really understands yet never tells me what to do. He is a wise, kind, gentle and loving man. He has taught me a lot about life being a journey where we can hold both the good and bad in life together and still find happiness. Because of Robby, my life is better, I am learning who I am, and how to navigate the difficulties.
Impact Statement – A letter to a son
As parents we would like to be able to make everything safe, good and happy for you. We have had to learn the hard way that we cannot do that for you. We cannot control your actions or your thoughts and that has been very hard for us. We see you struggle, make bad choices, and face the consequences. This has been the most challenging time in our lives.
Our program has taught us that we must take care of ourselves. We still care about you very much and will always remain patient and compassionate as you work your program. You have a dreadful disease and we accept that only you can manage your life and make your choices. We hope your choices lead you to recovery.
When you isolated yourself in the condo and your addiction took hold of you, this was very hard for us. We would not hear from you and then we would get the dreadful call that you were unable to take care of yourself and were in a dangerous and dark place. The alcohol alone is scary but we know that you were around other bad elements and getting into drugs. We knew that your life was crashing down around you and all we could do was to wait until you were drowning in the chaos. You began to lie about your whereabouts and your physical condition. You were lying to us, your supervisor, and to good friends. No one could depend on you. You had been a great employee, son, and friend and now your addiction was in charge. We saw your unhappiness, your loss of self-esteem and how you were consumed by shame. It hurt us to see this but we could not change your destructive behavior.
All through your young adulthood and now into your mid-life, we continued to see you struggle with addiction. You missed many opportunities because of this disease. You are still young enough to leave the past behind you and secure for yourself a full and satisfying life. A life of joy, love, and companionship in recovery.
Many times you have been a mean drunk. Recently you had to be restrained from going after me (Dad). Other times you have gotten into fights and this is occurring more often. This is behavior that will only get worse in addiction. You are not that way when you are sober.
Friends and family have experienced your difficult behavior and it has caused them to choose to not be around you. You slip into dangerous behavior when you are drinking and this makes other people afraid to be around you in private or public places. We all share in the fracture of our family. We believe we can be healed as we all make amends.
We have experienced many desperate times that are like a roller coaster going from hope to despair and back. You are an alcoholic and you have been in a downward spiral. You have had to sell your home to pay bills that were caused by the addiction. You will lose more of your savings to payoff more bills that are a direct result of addictive behaviors. You lose all ability to self-regulate your life, your finances, your wellbeing when you let the addiction take over. It is like you are riding down a ski slope totally out of control and going faster every minute. We don’t want to watch you self-destruct but you will if you do not follow the plan to recovery. We don’t want you to lose everything. You mean so much to us and we want to see you successful in recovery. We don’t want to lose you to this disease!
Mom and Dad